Alright, I am fifteen years old (sixteen is six months! Whoot) and my boyfriend is 18, I might be pregnant, I havn't found out yet, I am going to today, but I was wondering what would happen to him if I did? I already know it's illegal for me to be having sex with him in the first place (as the concent age here is 16) but it kinda happened anyways. What would happen? Or does anyone know a site I could find this out on?

Oh geez, kiddo, you sure have more going on than anyone your age should have to deal with. PM me, and let's see what we can think of, ok?

*HUGS*
~Sherry

Aw, hon. I don't know what else to say is that my prayers are with you, and that I hope everything turns out okay.

Really, I think it depends on if your parents decide to press charges. I could be wrong though. I really hope everything turns out OK, my thoughts are with you.

I had a nice reply all written out and as soon as I clicked on submit I lost the signal due to a storm here.

We have all been there, and I'm sure everyone has assumed they won't be able to cope- but I think that but coming on here looking for support you probably realise that that's what you will need. Have you got a good support network at home? Will your family help you?

My boyfriend (23) is a already a great- uncle! His brother and his wife are going to raise their granddaughter themselves since the mother is only fifteen. I hope your family is as kind.

I'm afraid I can't offer any advice on your crazy legal system, but I can worry about you and wish you luck.

Please let us know when you find out.

Kryi,

I'm keeping the fingers crossed for you, dear. You know where to find me if you want or need to chat.

Robert

I know four men who are on the permenant sex offender registry list because of statutory rape--being an adult and having sex with a female who is below the age of consent. In every case it was because the parents of the young-but-consenting-lady pressed charges. I know many, many more men and young women who have been in this situation and no charges were pressed. It's really up to your parents.

PS, My son is 18, a senior in high school. Despite the pressure from certain beautiful freshman girls to entice him to be their senior boyfriend, he doesn't date freshmen or sophomore girls. Even though his intentions towards girls are good, he knows that in the heat of passion accidents do happen. He doesn't want to put either of them in harm's way. Especially since he'd be the one who could go to jail for it.

I hope you're not pregnant. But if you are, know that you can get through this too. There are wonderful people who will help you, hopefully including your parents.

That's awfully scary, and I know just how you feel... I would definitely check out the forums at Scarleteen where there are a lot of experts and otherwise smart people. I hope everything works out for you!

[SIZE=7]hey girl
Me being younger than you, I can't say much but I feel for you(virtual hug) and hope everything'll be okay. Mail me if you ever wanna rant to sum1, k?

P.S. YOu might wanna consider:are your parents the sort to press charges? Can you handle a baby at this stage? Can you consider adoption or (shudders) abortion?

First off, let me tell you that you were wise to get a pregnancy test, many girls your age don’t do that in time and that leads to health complications for the baby, and you especially. So go to your ob/gyn and go to a therapist/minister/rabbi/priest etc., if you’re pregnant, that can help with what may come to pass – whether it’s a miscarriage due to your body not ready to have a baby or a sudden passage into parenthood and consequently, adulthood.

Abraham Lincoln once said ‘Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.’
So there are a lot of things to consider. Your parents likely care for you and want to do the right thing by you, but they might not know what that is. It is highly probable that you do not know what the right thing is. But there are some things that need to be considered.

1.) If your not pregnant: breath a sigh of relief and use your head next time…waiting for the right man at the right time can be a hard thing, but you will be a stronger woman for it, and your relationship at that point will be happier for it too.

2.) If you’re pregnant, or if there is biological evidence of sex with the young man in question, any at all, and your parents decide to press charges, and they refuse to settle out of court, he will go to jail. Even if your parents do settle out of court, the state could press charges and send him to jail anyway.

3.) If you’re pregnant, and your parents don’t press charges, the state will likely not get involved, they’re busy enough with violent criminals and drug offenders. However, there have been cases where a young married couple find themselves in court due to the new federal crackdown on statutory rape cases.

Example: In Santa Clara, California Juan (age 22) and his wife Luz Lopez (age 17) are in court because their existence as a couple violates federal law. Juan was arrested for having consensual sex with Lopez before they were married. The crime was statutory rape, sex with a minor. If he is convicted of the felony charge, he could spend six months or more in the county jail and get slapped with years of probation.

The county has pursued the case against Juan even though his wife never filed a complaint. There was no violence in the relationship. At the time of the arrest, the two were living together with Lopez's parents, who consented to the
relationship. Over the objections of everyone involved, Juan was arrested and spent 23 days in jail. After a number of court appearances, he has decided to plead guilty to a misdemeanor rather than risk the possibility of a felony conviction.

"If he fought it, he could get a dismissal, but he would be playing with fire," says Molly O'Neal, the deputy public defender representing Juan.

Though Juan and Luz are doing nothing more than pursuing a relationship, starting a family and trying their best to get by, they have found themselves at the center of a hot issue in California and in Santa Clara County, where state-funded bus placards and radio announcements threaten menacingly: Have sex with a teen; go to jail.



Scared yet?

Overwhelmed with the possibilities of the political hotbed of issues you’ve gotten into?

Well there is help…you’re not going to like this.

I would urge you on all levels to talk openly and honestly with your pastor, rabbi, minister, or priest, an aunt or someone you trust – a teacher or guidance counselor, coach, someone not related to you but clearly an adult your parents can recognize as an adult – don’t go to your 21 year old cousin with blue hair – your parents will not be likely to accept her as an advocate in your corner. Be reasonable and sensible with who you go to. And then meet together with your parents. Do it that day – do it the next day, but do it soon.

And prepare yourself emotionally. They will be mad. Dad will fly off the handle and Mum will go spare. That’s why your minister/rabbi/advocate should be there – to remind them of parental love among other things… And since they love you, they’ll do the right things for you. You’re still a kid. Yes, you have all sorts of good grownup things going on in your life – and you’re smart enough to know when you’re in over your head… I know many adults who don’t even know that themselves.

I will keep you in my prayers…

Tess

*nods* I understand what everyone is saying. I doubt anyone remembers this, but I don't have parents. My mom and stepdad died, and they would be the only people who would understand. My dad would kill /me/ not him. And my grandparents (whom I live with) would be very disappointed because they told me in June that if I started having sex that they would get me birthcontrol, but in all honesty, I would rather do anything then ask them.

They also don't know Jordan and I are dating, which would complicate things. My friend who is 17 said he'd claim the baby was his, to which I rolled my eyes. I also don't know yet if I am, because I havn't taken the test yet. As I want to wait until a little ways into September before I do, as I have irregular periods.

My advice? Take the test ASAP. Just the stress of not knowing can throw ur period off. Believe me. Over a yr ago I had a Scare because my period was late. I really thought I was pregnant but thankfully I wasnt but I think the stress of me worrying about it and the stress of my parents FINDING out i had sex really set my period back. If i had taken a test, the worry would have lessened greatly and my period would have prob showed up sooner. I was SOOO extremly happy when i saw i had it back. Never have i been that happy to see my period. lol. Please let us know what happens. I'll keep you in my prayers and take the test ASAP. Also, if your grandparents offered to put u on birth control at such a young age, than I think they would have been okay with u asking for it. I know my own mother would not be willing if she found out I wanted too(and im 19!). You said you would rather do anything than ask them for it, would u rather raise a child? Is that the price you would pay not to ask them for more protection? Have you told your b/f yet? What has he said? Please keep us posted and if you want to talk PM me please. Even if u need someone to rant and rave too just send me a PM and i'll listen. I know how it feels to want to rant and rave. It helps greatly.

you'll be okay! I'm certain of it. My former advice still stands though if you wind up pregnant ... speak with another, unrelated adult advocate and have them in your corner when you speak to your guardians. They'll need impartial advices, as will you!

hugs and prayers and take that test! Irregular periods aren't going to influence the test - the presence of a baby will jerk your hormones around and that is a specific type of hormonal presence detectable in blood and urine - the fact that your ovaries occasionally take a nap and not release an egg on time will not sway your test results.

Unless you're menopausal.... and you're a bit young for that!!

I am so sorry please know your in my prayers and I give good advice PM me if you need some or just someone to listen to you, no matter what happens.

Jordan knows about it. He says he wants to have kids with me, but not right now, because I am still in school, and because he'd get into loads of trouble. And because he hasn't moved out yet. Which is all understandable.

I also took a test yesterday, which said I wasn't pregnant. So I'd like to thank everyone who gave me advice and prayed for me. Jordan was funny about his answer, as I didn't tell him when I took it, I just said I wasn't, he went, "When did you take the test?" I replied shortly with, "Five hours ago." And he said confused, "And you didn't tell me...why?" I shruged and said, "Because it makes a very odd conversation starter, 'Hi, hun, how was your day? I'm not pregnant!'" He laughed.

Well, when it came to telling Jordan, it sounds like you took a page from the Weasleys. Have you been channelling Ginny recently?

Really, however, I think I'm saying what everyone is thinking in that we're all glad it was a false alarm. After everything you've been through these past two years, a pregnancy at 15 is not what you need to be facing right now.



Robert

I'm so glad you're not pregnant! Probably wouldn't be the best thing to happen right now, all things considered. A scare like this happened to me a few months ago and it really opened my eyes as to how real the possibility was and how - though I thought I was being safe enough - it's really best to use more than one form of protection and be really really really careful.

Congrats on not being pregnant (good lord, that sounds strange...)

Chocolate kisses,
Bekken

Alright, now it's offical, because before it was just a test saying I'm not pregnant, now it's spelled out. My period started on Friday, and Jordan and I were celebrating all weeked (sounds odd doesn't it? Celebrating because I'm /not/ pregnant)